NEWSLETTER - JULY 2023
DON’T WAIT FOR CHANGE, STEP TO IT
You'd be surprised how many people in this world do not know who they are and what talents and gifts lie within them. Some people will spend years working the same jobs they don't like, caring for people they rather be away from, complaining about being unhappy they are with themselves but won’t take steps toward change.
■Have you given up on seeing great chances happen for you?
Do you feel as if life has past you by and now you're just here on this earth but not really living? That's not what God intended for us. He said he came to give life and more abundant life (John 10:10).
If you're not happy with who you are or how you look work on changing it:
►color your hair or wear a new wig, go to the gym, exercise or change your eating habits. Read inspirational and self-help books or better yet, write your own memoirs,
■Not happy with where you live?
If you can't move yet, make small changes to improve on the space around you to create a more pleasant and inviting surrounding until you can.
►Plant flowers, paint a room, change the position of the furniture, add a painting, change the lighting to set a different mood or simple take walks or bike rides to the park.
■Not happy with your job?
Do what it takes to get a better one:
►Go back to school, learn a new trade, apply for something a little better or different position than what you’re used to. You'd be surprised how many employers are willing to hire and train a person with less experience and sometimes none at all. Some employers don’t want a “know it all” they want a worker who’s teachable and willing to learn.
■What Are You Waiting For?
Stop waiting for your life to change and make the necessary changes.
You’re not hear just to make everyone else around you happy, you are supposed to be happy too.
Change can be uncomfortable and isn't aways easy, but even if it's gradual ones, it's still change none-the-less.
If you’re married and your spouse has a hard time embracing your ideas or goals, give them time. Honestly, if they truly love you they should want to see you reach your goals, and be open to seeing a better you; inside and out and especially if they will benefit from it. True love always supports improvements for the better.
If they don't like the new you, then perhaps they too could use a bit of change too.
Be a better you no matter what.
Amy
Unpredictable You!!!.
‘Keep them on edge just a bit because a little crazy adds color to the relationship’ Raising teenagers can be so stressful. I made a comment to a friend last week after I watched her trying to reinforce her rule to her 15 year old son who was being abstinent. I said, “you can't pay me enough money to go back in time and raise another teenager.”
Only God knows what’s goes on in their brain. It’s as if they get stuck on, "It's my life I should be able to do what I want when I want." But you can’t Bozo, you’re still a child not an adult.” It doesn’t matter how many times you repeat yourself, dishing out your rules. They still feel like they can actually make their own decisions and their own way or try to get around them. “
Here's a freebie for all the parents whose in the middle of a tug-a-war with your teenagers. BE UNPREDICTABLE!!!. What do I mean?---------Never let them get used to knowing your habits, responses, or rote reactions etc.
Catch them off guard sometimes because when they know that Mom or Dad is going to react the same each time every time, they’re already programmed to try and work around your plans. “It’s okay if Mom/Dad are going to ground me for ____ time. I still got to do what I wanted.” They think that way, you know.
A Mentor once told me that she was always unpredictable with her four children. Some days she’s let them get away with anything they wanted then without notice, she’d jump down their throat if they sneezed. We laughed as she talked about how her children started to think she had some kind of mental illness; “Mom’s crazy Dude” . What they learned was that they were better off being on their best behavior and following her rules because they never knew which Mom they were going to get for that day. Try using some unpredictability throughout those challenging teenage years.
You might want to try and keep them on edge just a bit. A little crazy adds color to the relationship.
Best Your Best Always
Amy
ARTICLE; WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?
'It's a known fact that people who habitually insult others have a lot of insecurities. They are generally unhappy people.'
Name calling has escalated to epidemic proportions these days, especially with social media, viral videos, and primetime TV at our disposal. Most of the time, the one doing the name calling is not being kind by any means. There are people who actually think it’s okay, fashionable even to be abrasive, and hostile with name calling. In actuality, it shows who they really are.
I was at a small social gathering when a person whom I thought I had a fairly good working relation with, well, at least I thought I did, starting flinging verbal insults at me because I didn’t agree with her and because I wouldn’t let her do what she wanted. After I got over the initial shock of what she said to me in front of everyone, I kindly addressed her in a soft but emphatic tone, as to not cause a scene, “be careful because your horns are showing”, in other words, you’re acting that a real devil. It was my way of pointing out to her how she was acting without calling her a name that was floating around in my head at the time.
It's unbelievable sometimes how people will take things too far and this is what I’m addressing today in this blog. Maybe you’ve personally encountered someone who was verbally offense or know someone who experienced it. I admit, it doesn’t feel good to be insulted, called names and especially in public. Most often than not, insults are accompanied by rude and obscene profanity. It’s enough to make you hurl something out them and we know that it and worse things has happened as a result. It’s not worth responding to some of the off the wall scrap you hear. I love myself too much to want to get hurt or end up in jail.
Honestly, it’s human nature to want to throw back after an attack, but why stoop to their level? Will it make you feel better to call them a “B” or “MF” (profanities) because they called you one? Nope, because you’re still going to be just as upset, agitated, and angry with them after you’ve said your piece. I mean really?…… Who do they think they are for saying those things to you, they don’t know you, right?
It's a known fact that people who habitually insult others have a lot of insecurities. They are generally unhappy people. They enjoy using slanderous and degrading words because they don’t feel good about themselves, so they get a little satisfaction from trying to make you feel worse than they are.
There is a certain feeling of confidence when you know who you and you feel good about yourself. So, what you really should be asking yourself, is who do I think I am?
Here are three things you should know:
●When you know who you are, inside and out then you have no need to belittle others, even if they
did it to you.
●When you know who you are no one else can make you feel inadequate, and less than who
God made you to be. Know what potential lies within you.
●When you know who you are, it doesn’t matter what others think, only that you are in control
of your destiny, and you decide who’s opinions matters and whose does not.
Snippets:
When my granddaughter was 3 years old, and her older brother was around 6, he got angry with her because he thought she was being a menus; “she’s so aggravating” he would say. Honestly, she was only being a bouncy and bubbly little sister who wanted her brother’s attention, but he wanted to play his video game and she was distracting him. So, he yelled at her, “that’s why you’re so ugly”.She ran to me with hurt feelings and crying, “ J- called me ugly”. “Well, are you ugly?”, I asked her. She replied, “no”. “Then why are you so upset about something you know that you’re not?” After sharing a few more positive and encouraging words with her. She quickly dried her tears and went back to playing as if he had never be insulted. Because she knew within herself that she wasn’t an ugly girl. As a matter of fact, everywhere she went, strangers as well as family and friends admired her beauty. She captured the attention of on lookers nearly everywhere she went, even as basic as in a grocery store.
●Maybe she was upset because she loved her brother too much, in that moment she believed what he was telling her was actual true.
●Maybe she needed reassurance that what he was telling her wasn’t true even though she knew better.
All along the way, as she was growing up I kept reminding her of who she was, what she could become in life, what lies within her. This is very important for children because it shapes their little minds to think greater. Just one year later this same little girl had her first solo stage dance performance before an audience, fearless and brave. By age 5 she had her first solo theatrical dance performance. At ages 7-8 she stared in a commercial and YouTube film presentations. At 9 she had her first acting role in a nationwide movie. At only 11 years old she has performed before thousands in theater musicals and acting roles.
It matters how you think about yourself, so don’t allow someone to tell you who you are or are not. Don’t let anyone rob you of who you or will become. Don't continue to accept criticism from someone whose opinion doesn’t count.
Where you are now in life does not define what you will become or where you will be later. The only two real opinions that matter are God's and yours.
You may not be there yet, but you still know who you are and what you're capable of. Work on it. Dreams really do come true.
- Don’t let anyone to make you feel devalued.
- Don’t let anger consume you to where you forfeit your dreams
W-A-I-T, HOLD -UP….. WHAT DID THEY JUST SAY ABOUT YOU? NO, I DON’T THINK SO, BECAUSE THEIR OPINIONS, INSULTS, INAPPRORAITE WORDS DON’T MATTER. YOU’VE GOT SOMEWHERE TO GO, SOMEONE TO BE
THAT IS ALL THAT MATTERS!!
My best to you always,
Amy
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